Tantrums when trying to go anywhere's

[pfezziwig]

Hi all

My daughter is going on 3. Over the last week she started throughing some big tantrums when she couldn't get her way. Usually it involves us going somewheres and her not wanting to cooperate.

Normally we accomodated her by taking up to 15 minutes to leave after we told her we're going out. Usually this meant her playing with something a few minutes, requiring a book to be read to her, her gathering a few things together like a couple dolls and books and us repeatedly telling her to get a move on.

Now it seems we have been taking longer and longer to get her ready to go anywhere's and if we 'rush' it by getting her ready in less than 10 minutes it can result in a big tantrum.

This of course doesn't happen at daycare and I'ld like her to listen to us more when we tell her to get ready like at daycare. I'm not sure how to do this though.

I just started removing some of the toys and books as we had way too many and troubles seem to involve them and her being overly distracted by them when we want to go anywheres.

Have we spoiled her?

Any advice to help us get her ready in a timely and non-tantrum inducing manner would be appreciated.

P.Fezziwig

[Annie]

:wave: Hello!

Some toddlers have more trouble with "transitions" than others. And most kids behave better for others than they do for their parents :yuck:
I don't think you've spoiled her -- she will likely grow out of this tantrum phase (and then it will be something else :lol: )

Here's more on toddler tantrums:

http://www.maternitycorner.com/mcmag/articles/child0010.html

[Lollyellen]

I would inquire at her daycare, from her teacher personally, what types of "transitions" they use there for putting toys away, going outside, getting in "line" (if they do that with three year olds :lol: ) to go somewhere, etc. Maybe using those same songs or words, or even any other audible signals teachers use (some teachers use a specific rhythmic clapping to get the kids' attention), would trigger the same type of obedient response her daycare teachers are able to get from her.

I've been a daycare teacher, as well as Mom to two kids (although one is still an infant :lol: ) - and I would not hesitate to expect immediate compliance from BOTH types of kiddos...of course, I sometimes would accomplish that in two different ways, respectively. ;)