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Why
babies cry
By Anne
Cavicchi
Babies
cry -- it's just a fact of life with a baby! And while it can be
frustrating for parents, it's the only real way that your baby can
communicate with you for the first few months of life. So, just
why do babies cry?
Dirty
or Wet Diaper?
While
not all babies mind a wet or dirty diaper, most do, and a clean
diaper will stop the crying.
Hunger?
Possibly the most common reason for crying. Is your baby hungry?
Even if it seems like they just ate, bebies sometimes feed more
frequently than others.
Looking
for a Cuddle?
Most babies like to be cuddled. Sometimes all that they need is
someone to hold them. I am a firm believer that you can not spoil
a baby by holding them too much.
Temperature?
Your baby may be to hot -- or too cold. A good rule of thumb is
to dress your baby much as you are dressed, and maybe one layer
more (ie: a little undershirt).
Stress?
Sometimes adults feel "I can't take it anymore" and need
a break. Well, babies are no different. Sometimes a change of scene
into a quiet place will calm your baby.
Just
Fussy?
Many babies just have times where they will fuss and are not easily
soothed. This can range from a few minutes of hard-to-console crying
to full-blown colic. Colic is usually defined as inconsolable crying
for at least three hours per day, three days per week or more.
Sick?
Other than the crying, is your baby acting differently? Is the cry
different than usual (weak or sickly sounding?) Does he or she feel
like they have a fever? If you are unsure, call your doctor or the
hospital. My philosophy is it's better to check with them and have
nothing be wrong than it is to have your baby get very sick because
you were worried about needlessly calling the doctor and wait to
call.
Ok,
you've done all these things and your baby is still crying! Now
what?
Swaddling
Wrap and hold your baby close. If you have trouble swaddling a baby
as I did, a swaddle
blanket is a great thing to have. Mind you, some babies find
swaddling or cuddling too constrictive and will respond better to
other forms of comfort.
Rhythm
and Sound
Babies are used to the sound of your heartbeat and all the other
swooshing and swishing sounds that were heard while in your womb.
There are things available that will mimic these sounds but I found
the vacuum cleaner also worked well! Many times my son would fall
asleep in his Baby
Bjorn while I was vaccuming! If you had a bola
ball during your pregnancy, wear it now too! It may help soothe
your baby wonderfully.
Movement
Sometimes just carrying your baby around the house will be enough
to calm the crying. Rocking chairs, car rides, or baby swings are
also good things to try. A great way to carry your baby for extended
periods of time is with a carrier
or sling. Sometimes a bit of a gentle bounce in your set can
help too.
Sucking
Babies also like to suck. Nurse your baby or offer a pacifier
or one of your fingers to suck on. There were times I felt like
a human pacifier, but if nursing was what would calm my son, then
that's what I did.
Rubbing
Rubbing your baby's back or tummy can be very soothing. Try this
while sitting, lying down, or walking around with your baby.
Remember,
crying in itself will not hurt your baby. If you have tried everything
and are feeling very frustrated, sometimes it is a good idea to
call someone to come and help you out. If there isn't anyone to
take over for you for a time and you are at the end of your rope,
calmly place the baby in a safe place such as their crib or on a
mat or sheepskin
on the floor and leave the room for a few minutes. Take some time
out for yourself. Whatever you do, never ever shake your baby.
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