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Keeping
A Marriage Romantic
by Alan Detwiler
Romantic
relationships happen because of the hopes and dreams a couple has
for a happy life together. The relationship will be pleasant and
rewarding as long as you are aware of what inspires those hopes
and dreams.
Here
are ways for staying aware of what makes your relationship worthwhile
and wonderful.
Nothing
is perfect
Don't
expect a perfect relationship. That happens only in fairy tales.
Problems will occur. You will get hurt. Being too concerned with
the problems will stop you from paying enough attention to what
is good in the relationship.
If
perfection is the goal, you will compare how the relationship is
now to what you think it should be. You will be continually disappointed.
Making the relationship better should be the goal. If love happens,
it will be based on believing that both of you can continue to build
a good relationship.
Your
attitude should signal the other person that you will try to patiently
work through each other's shortcomings. It won't be easy. Being
tolerant and non-condemning is a challenge. But consciously making
an effort to be tolerant goes a long way.
Build
Upon What Is Good
Find
activities that you both like and do them together. These can be
activities such as gardening, cooking, hobbies, conversation, recreation,
an interest in art, charity volunteering, and family activities.
Having interests that are shared, keeps a couple involved in each
other's lives.
Share
ideas to find ways to more enjoy living. Tell your sweetheart about
strategies you use for such things as achieving goals and enjoying
yourself. Tell each other about what you think is interesting, what
is worthwhile, and what is encouraging. If you share positive ideas,
you will think of each other as pleasant and enjoyable.
Encourage
your partner to act and make decisions. Both of you will be able
to accomplish more with the other's support and encouragement. When
there is a disagreement, be patient. If you need to criticize, offer
an attractive alternative rather than a condemnation. Your encouragement
likely will produce
more good results than will your objections.
The good things in life are much more important than the disappointments.
Reward yourself and your partner for the good in what you are doing
and take some time to do what you enjoy.
Alan
Detwiler is the author of the ebook Date Ideas: Fun Things
To Do For Couples available at
Amazon.com
He has a web site with a section about fun things to do for couples
at
www.leisureideas.com/date
ideas.htm
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