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ROMANCE
101
How to turn Your Relationship into a Great Romance!
By Gina
M. Woods
OK...Let's
talk about romance! The #1 most important thing you need to turn
your relationship into a great romance is DESIRE. You have to WANT
great romance in your life. Well, who wouldn't want that? But it
won't just happen...it will take some effort. But it will be well
worth it!
When
asking couples why they think the romance has escaped their relationships,
the most common excuse is TIME. It's sooooooo hard to find time
and energy to devote to your relationships. But think for a moment
back to your courtship. What was different then? Didn't you have
a job then? Didn't you have other responsibilities then? Of course
you did...maybe not to the extent that you do now, but you still
had a schedule to keep, whether it was attending college, studying,
playing sports, attending club meetings, keeping a job, etc. But
somehow you found the time to "woo" your partner, right?
You found time to date, right? Why? Because you WANTED TO! You planned
it into your schedule and did it! And why were those times together
so special? Because that specific amount of time was set aside and
reserved for one reason...ROMANCE! And during those "dates"
you gave 100% of your attention to each other, right? That's what
made it special.
Now
I want you to think about the last time you and your partner went
out to dinner. What did you talk about? Maybe it was the family
finances, or difficulties at work, or...the KIDS. Wow, what a romantic
dinner, huh? That's the problem. You have to learn to create romantic
situations that focus 100% on each other. Save the "problem
solving" for another time. I can't tell you how many times
in the past my husband and I went out to dinner and whenever we
got home, I didn't even feel like we went out! Why? Because the
whole time we were out, we were busy doing that "problem solving"
stuff instead of enjoying what little time we had together. So,
that's the second most important thing you need to turn your relationship
into a great romance...PRIORITY. Make it a priority to spend quality,
FOCUSED time with your partner. These special times should be set
aside JUST for the two of you to enjoy each others company...nothing
else...PERIOD.
Okay...So
now we have established that creating great romance will require
DESIRE, and making it a PRIORITY. The next thing we need is a PLAN!
You may have heard the saying, "You didn't plan to fail, you
just failed to plan!" Anything worth doing requires a good
plan. It can be as simple as scheduling one evening per week as
"date night," or promising to spend "x" amount
of time doing something romantic for your partner each week. There
are plenty of books, magazines, web sites, newsletters, etc. that
will
give you lots of ideas to use for your romantic "dates."
Use your imagination & be creative! The most important thing
is to make a plan and then stick to it…no matter what.
After
that, all that's left to do is sit back and watch the magic of romance
do it's thing! Oh, I'm not saying that this is going to be easy...it
WILL take a little work. But it will be FUN work!
Gina Woods is the publisher of "E-Romance Weekly,"
an on-line weekly newsletter offering exciting "romantic
recipes" to rekindle the romance in any relationship. For more
information, visit http://www.spiritwithindesigns.com/E-Romance/subscribe.html.
Join our FREE E-Romance Weekly Yahoo Group at http://groups.yahoo.com/group/eromanceweekly.
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